Friday, June 10, 2011

Preface for Part 2 Write your own Love Letter

Ephesians 1:4-6
Even before He made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in His eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ.  This is what He wanted to do, and it gave Him great pleasure.  So we Praise God for the glorious grace He has poured on us who belong to His Dear Son.

Reading and studying this verse has made me realize why I was adopted and how much I am really loved by our Father God, through His Son Christ Jesus and Elbert and Bertha Acklin (my parents).

The Revelation:
When I was being teased and taunted about being adopted I was too young to understand that I had been adopted twice, naturally and supernaturally. That means I am twice blessed! While they were all laughing, my friend Robin and the others, were also adopted but they didn't know it. They didn't realize how blessed they were.  What a lesson a Christian "values" school could've taught. We were all in the same boat!
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Chapter 1 Part 2 Write your own Love Letter

Get to the place in life where you write your own love letter to yourself. Express your true love to yourself, frequently. Everytime the devil tells you that you're no good, or unworthy of God's goodness read your latest love letter or write another one that tops the last one. When you feel down or need a lift-up tell yourself how much you love you.  It's a challenge because the last thing you want to do when you're down is the opposite of how you feel. It's kind of like when you come home from a long day and you sit down to study The Word, after you hear it you're full. That's the right time to write yourself a love letter. It's like having dessert after your dinner. Even if you can only think of a few sentences that's okay, just hold onto it, and add to it when you can think of something else to write. After you write your letter post it up on the refrigerator so you can refer back at a later date and remind yourself of the love God has for you to it. Remember we have to love ourselves before we can be lovable. God wrote us a love letter and it is called the Holy Scriptures. Open up your love letter and allow it to help you write your own.

Tips on How to Create, Design and Publish your Love Letters

1. Blog - design the perfect blog for your love letters to yourself. You can create the colors and accessories to make the blog as gorgeous as you want it to be.
2. Journal - a lovely journal book would be ideal to keep a collection of love letters.
3. Refrigerator magnets- some stores carry a package of magnets that are blank on one side and adhesive on the other. You can write a two word message or create an entire paragraph to stick onto the magnet to put right on your refrigerator.
4. Frame them - type out your love letters and purchase a beautiful frame for them.  Frame them all at one time or one at a time.  Frame them all over your desk, living room or bedroom. Frame them wherever you would like.
5. Power Point Presentation (more of this in part 3) - once you have written your love letter you should share it. Another way to share it is to create a power point presentation. I once had a power point party in my classroom. For 18 years I was a teacher in Detroit Public School. At lunch time my colleagues and I would gather in my classroom to eat and talk about the days activities.  After we came back from Christmas and New Year vacation in January 2005, I invited them to my classroom once again but this time it was to view a power point presentation that I had made over the holiday break. It was sort of like a "New Years Resolution" thing, even though I stopped making them years ago. I called it 10 Characteristics of the Man God has for Me. It was a hit!
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Chapter 1 Part 3 Power Point Presentation Party

The Lord said in His Word to call those things that be not as though they were. It's called faith. Another way of putting it is this: My Bishop, Ben Gibert quoted from some of the famous great preachers; If you own a dog and the dog isn't in it's usual spot, you can't smell him, he hasn't been sniffing around where he usually sniffs around, and the food has been eaten, you don't just go in the house and sulk and say to yourself my dog is lost, oh well! You are suppose to call to it until the dog shows up!

Eleven months after the power point party, out of faith, I called to my new home, I called to my daughter having a safe ride to school and I called to my man of God and God answered. Let me tell you what I was doing while I was calling. I was working in my church as a greeter on the hospitality team, I sang alto in the young adult chior, and I was serving in my church in every capacity that I could. As a result on October 9, 2005 I had been honored with an award, Outstanding New Member, Sisters answering the call, commissioned to do a mighty work in the Name of Jesus. Ephesians 4:11-13 There it is again, that word CALL.

How did I call to my man of God? I was busy doing the will of God for my life. I was newly divorced two years before and received my Master's Degree in the same year as the divorce. As a matter of fact I received my degree on April 30, 2003 and my divorce was final 7 months later on November  11, 2003.

In the between year, 2004, I admit I dated the wrong men. Still not giving God total control over my  relationships.  I had one proposal from someone that I didn't particulary want to be with. Then I dated someone who I worked with. I thought he would be the one. But he told me that I'd have to make up my mind what I wanted friendship or intimacy, because I couldn't have both. He said this because one day I wanted him to take me out and the next day I wanted romance. So his thinking was he can't have me as his friend that he takes out and his lover - What?! I thought that was what people who dated should do.  I wanted a close relationship, and at this point I found out that he didn't. By this time I woke up. Maybe he was right. That was my que from the Lord.  I decided to end it and move on, pursuing God only.

I asked the Lord for the new home he helped me pick out on November of 2005. In need of help to get my children back and forth to school so I could keep my own job, I asked Him for a safe ride for my daughter who had just started Kindergarten. I happened to run into a friend from years ago who lived three doors down from my new house and whose children attended my daughters school. Needless to say this loving couple was willing to take my baby to school so that I could proceed to take my son miles away to his school and be at work on time. Look how He worked that out! People who haven't been in a single parent situation before don't understand how difficult it is to safely situate their children, keep a job, pay bills, meet the needs of the children and on top of all that have their sanity. It's not just time but mental stress, physical stress. A person has to be healthy, a little wealthy, and very wise. A person has to be able to finagle things around, manipulate situations, think fast, be tip top and ready for anything like major disasters, mix ups, pressure. It's a lot, it's a place where no woman of God should rightfully have to endure alone. God knew what He was doing when He created marriage.  I just put myself in this bind. He didn't. He didn't tell me to marry my first husband. In fact He told me, through my own mother not to marry this guy. I didn't listen. So when I decided to get it right. Glory to Him! It was all God! And I thank my parents for every ounce of support they gave me. God saw me and He saw that I shouldn't be playing two roles. He allowed me to give up one role when He sent my man of God knocking on my door one brisk Saturday afternoon after He gave me my new home. Amen!

Before I get into how we met let me tell you what I did to call to Him. I wrote in my power point presentation on January 2, 2005 what God answered on December 19, 2005 (10 months and 19 days later), The 10 Characteristics of the Man that God has for Me I like long titles because they tell exactly what I'm going to say.

1. Love the Lord: We have to be equally yolked 2 Cor. 6:14, Matt. 6:33
2. Great Provider: He has to take care of his family Ruth 2:1
3. No more than 2 children: It's only fair I have two as well. We are open to having one together
4. Attend church regularly: Goes back to love the Lord and serving Matt. 6:33
5. Has his own job, home, and car: He's a Man of God wouldn't expect anything less
6. Loves and adores me: As God loves the church Eph. 5: 25-30
7. Loves and cares for my children: A good father does this. Eph. 6:4
8. His children and my children get along very well: No jealousy or resenment Luke 15:11-32
9. Ambitious, a go-getter wants more out of life than average: I know the plans I have for you...
10. Excellent money manager: God will make us ruler over many Mal. 3:8-12

There is clip art attached to these statements to show an illustration so that anyone could understand what I was saying even if they couldn't read. Go to this website and take a look ______________...
The presentation was outstanding, I received rave reviews and everyone wanted me to let them know when I met him. Let me tell you, God blessed me with all 10 and so much more!
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Monday, June 6, 2011

Chapter 1 Who do you Love? Part 1 Love the Lord God with all your Heart

Matthew 22:37
And he said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul and with all thy mind.

I love the Lord. I love me. I love the Lord because He first loved me. And I love me because He first loved me. Therefore I can love others and my enemies. God said we should love others as we love ourselves. That is the first and second commandment. How can we say that we love someone and don't truly love God or ourselves first. When two people come together in marriage they are whole parts not half. Some folks say they are halves until they find their mate and then they are whole. What a lie! In order to love someone you should be a whole person. Your mate doesn'tmake you whole, your love for God and yourself makes you whole.  It's like if you purchase a box of cookies and after you opened them all of the cookies are half peices. Surprise! The cookie company expected you to come up with the other half of the cookie. Thats purposturous! They said you got what you paid for. No you got fooled. You should be complaining and asking for a refund. So who wants half a person?

My mother taught me how to love myself. She would tell me every morning that I was special. I grew up thinking that I was the most special little girl there ever lived. I believed tha I was beautiful, rich, sweet, thoughtful, caring, peaceful, friendly, and all of this because God was inside of me, until I was in the 5th grade, there wasn't a doubt in my mind, or a care in the world that would make me think any different about myself.  I exuded so much confidence as a child but it slowly dwindled away.by age 18 I wished I was someone else. All the wear and tear on my self esteem from age 11 to 18 made me into a shy, withdrawn, ashamed, and unpopular young adult. Not the person my mother taught me to be. It wasn't until the devil told me and my friends that because I was adopted that I was different in a bad way. Here's the story: After my mom told me countless times, even before I was old enough to put into words I went to school and told my "friend" Robin in confidence and she told others and all of a sudden before I knew anything the entire class knew that i was adopted.  They made fun of me. They laughed in my face, said I was an orphan, a foster child, didn't know my real mom and dad, adopted. Oh my gosh, you just don't know how I began to hate that word ADOPTED became a bad word. I can still hear the ring in my ear of that bad word. That word that I and my family understood and got joy out of but when my peers heard it they thought it was a funny word to make light of someone because in their eyes they felt as though I was alone with no family coming to school from an orphanage. That wasn't the case. I came from a loving , two parent household where I was the only child. These kids wouldn't believe the fairytale life I lead at home. But tears still ran like a river. Surely their parents had warned them about the types of children they would go to school with. That they would befriend all people if they could. Even the adopted ones. I thought sure they would be happy for me - but they didn't know what I knew and their ignorant parents didn't bother to explain it to them nor did the uncaring teachers in a Christian school! Yes a Lutheran school that taught from the Holy Scriptures, had us children dress in uniforms ,memorize stories and bible verses for homework, and incorporated the subjest, "religion" into our curriculum. Sometime after I really got to know Robin and her parents. I found that her mother and father lived an unhealthy life around their child. Her mother was an alcoholic. She had an older sister who her mother had before she married Robin's dad and that girl lived in a foster home. Her mother happened to be ashamed of her older daughter. She had autism and her mom paid someone else to take care of her. Her sister never once came to vist and her mom stayed drunk every weekend. So sad for Robin. Yet I decided not to tease and tell her secret to our entire class. At this point of my life I learned what being a true friend really meant. And never really had one to reciprocate this concept ever again.

That is also how I learned to love God with all my heart, soul and mind, despite what the children had teased me about. Oh yes I felt persecuted, taunted, fooled, and took stones at me but I had overcome them just by being a true friend, and loving God and myself just as Jesus did when he took that unforgetable ride on the donkey through the crowd who threw palm tree branches at Him.
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Saturday, June 4, 2011

Assignment: Table of Contents

Book Title: How to follow Your Man of God to the Altar in 10 months

Chapter 1 Who Do You Love?
Part 1 Love the Lord with all your Heart
Preface Write Your Own Love Letter
Part 2 Write Your Own Love Letter
Sample of a Love Letter
Part 3 Power Point Presentation Party
Chapter 2 KISS= Keep it Simple Sweetheart (Always be a Sweetheart)
A. Open up your Heart
B. Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice
C. Attitudes, Actions and Anxieties
D. Don't Change unless...
Chapter 3 Getting Aquainted
A. Love Notes/The Good, Bad and Indifferent
B. Plan your Picnic
C. Relax, Rewind and Rejuvenate
D. Rushing isn't necessary
Chapter 4 Meet the Family
A. The Blended Part
B. Mom's and Dad's
C. Everyone else
Chapter 5 The Wedding Plans
A. Picking the size
B. Picking the people
C. Picking the Pastor or Officiate
Chapter 6 At the Altar
A. Whatever Happens be Cool, Calm and Collected
B. It's about you and your mate
C. I do!
D. Kiss the bride
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Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Words of Wisdom

Last Friday afternoon I was driving South on Evergreen   just    about    to    cross Grand River and...
I saw him!

I saw a man
riding a bike
with only
one
leg
He was doing
it with
such tenacity
and grace
like he never
forgot how
inspite of
his challenge
As he
rotated 
the pedal
with his
left foot
there was
no right one
to catch the other
So my eyes
moved slowly
upwards and I
saw a healthy,
content, smooth
faced, strength-on-his-face
man who apparently
did not think
he had
a challenge.

And I said to myself. If he think that with one leg and no frown then how should  I think with two legs and a smile!?

That Friday I found out when things get frustrating for me. Praise God He blesses me daily with 2 legs and a smile and all I need to think about is God.

Friday, May 20, 2011

The Mighty Rushing Wind

I was at church at Prayer Engine on Tuesday of this week. As Pastor G lead the group in a lesson I heard the Spirit of the Lord say wirte a poem like you used to. When I was little I could come up with poetry so fast it would make your head spin. He said your gifts are coming back. Each of my gifts that I received in my childhood are reoccuring. Writing, music, etc. I am so excited God is doing a new thing with me. Here's the poem based on Scripture (I'll look it up, I didn't get that far:)

The Mighty Rushing Wind
The Mighty Rushing Wind of Jesus Christ
Challenges us to live New life
Teaches us to live saved
Shows itself everyday
The Mighty Rushing Wind
Flows like a rivers train
Anointing everything inits way
The Mighty Rushing wWnd
does not hear or see
The Mighty Rushing Wind
Belongs to you and me.

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

God said, God!

This morning I was sound asleep and in a loud voice, I heard the Lord say, PAM! I woke right up and thought it was my husband calling me from the bathroom shower. After his shower my husband came upstairs I asked him if he had called me. He said no. Who was it I asked  myself? God said, God! I love you Lord. I heard you loud and clear.

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Letter on the first session

Hi Darlene,

Thank you! For taking time out of your schedule to offer this class. I am so happy to be a part of it. I haven't been in a writing class since college. Today was very special. Getting to know what other writers are reading is very important and Praise God! You had a HUGE turn out this morning!  I also learned and understood the types of readers other writers are and who/what they like to write/read about. Reading and writing are so closely linked. When you do one the other will follow. I expect to be able to get ideas to help me finally get my books of the ground. I want to be able to finish writing them, complete them, and publish them. I guess I am a social writer. Topics that I like, God of course, relationships, marriage and single, youth issues, things to celebrate/ my audience is young people, families, friends, people who love themselves and want to love themselves and others and maybe don't understand love. That is a mixture of some of everybody. I'm certainly excited! Can't wait til next week.